Why being a BCBA feels tough and how to cope
Have you ever left a session thinking, "I'm the worst BCBA alive"? You're not alone. This profession is incredibly demanding—emotionally, mentally, and practically. It's okay to struggle. Most of us do.
Why Does It Feel Like Everyone Else Has It Together?
It's easy to fall into the comparison trap, especially in an age of social media highlight reels where colleagues only showcase their best moments. Remember, these snapshots rarely capture reality. Additionally, unrealistic expectations set by supervisors or peers can amplify feelings of inadequacy. Know that you're seeing curated perfection, not the messy behind-the-scenes reality.
Common Emotional Traps
Perfectionism: Striving for perfection can leave you feeling constantly inadequate. Embrace the concept of "good enough," recognizing that excellence doesn’t require perfection.
Imposter Syndrome: Many BCBAs suffer silently from imposter syndrome, feeling like frauds despite clear competence. Recognize this common feeling and remind yourself regularly of your qualifications and achievements.
People-Pleasing: Trying to fix everything for everyone is unsustainable. Remember, you can support and guide without carrying every burden personally.
How to Reframe the "Bad Day"
Understand that you're human, not just a data point. Your best effort naturally fluctuates due to various external and internal factors—this variability is normal. Each day won’t be your peak, and that's perfectly okay.
Caring Deeply, Yet Setting Boundaries
Saying no is not selfishness; it’s self-care. Establishing clear, practical boundaries protects your emotional health and professional integrity. Learn to kindly but firmly communicate these boundaries to maintain your energy and effectiveness.
Being a BCBA doesn’t require perfection. Your worth isn't measured by flawless execution, but by your resilience and compassion. Give yourself permission to be human.
